By the end of my fifth grade year, I was really beginning to hate school because I was being bullied. I dealt with kids calling me names, and calling me out of my name. The thing is, I had not said or done anything to them for them to be saying the things they were saying about me. They talked about my hair, and they talked about my clothes. It got to the point that I didn’t even have the friends that I once had. Those friends started avoiding, ignoring and socially excluding me.
Oh, let me not leave out the physical aggression. I had a girl come up to me, and asked me for my homework. I told her, “No.” That’s when she got mad at me, and started slapping me across my face. It got to the point where I didn’t want to be alone at school, so I tried to be friends with some of the same girls that bullied me in hope that they would be nice to me. That didn’t work because I didn’t like the way they treated people. It just wasn’t me.
Summer came, and was coming to an end. I began to feel the pressure, anxiety, and fear of going back to school. It got so bad, that one day when my mom, my sister and I were riding and talking about school, I began to cry. I confided in them that I just wanted to die and that I hated school. They both begin to ask me “Why?” Remind you that I never told anyone what was going on. So, they were surprised to hear me say the things I was saying. They kept on asking me why I felt this way. I broke down and told them, and of course that made them furious. But the thing is, I felt like they were mad at me. In a way they were because I didn’t tell someone sooner.
When my sixth grade year began, my mom and sister came to school with me on my first day. As we sat and waited for my name to be called, I had a breakdown. They talked to me, and I felt a little better. I still had an overwhelming day because I was in class AGAIN with most of the girls who bullied me during my fifth-grade year. But by finally telling my mom what was going on with me, it began to make things better. I had gotten to the point, where I felt so worthless and unloved, that I began to bully myself mentally. I was always saying to myself that I wasn’t good enough and other negative thoughts.
My mom and grandma has stepped up as loving parents and got me help. So what I would like to tell anyone going through something (in my case bullying), is to speak up so someone can help. If no one knows, how can they help? Since I spoke up and started praying about my situation, doors have been opening for me to tell my story. I have had someone tell me that my story helped them! That makes me feel good. I have to say …things are getting better. I feel better day by day. What the devil meant for my harm, God is working out for my good.
Tell somebody, stand up for yourself, take action, just speak up! You, I and everyone deserves to feel safe at school, work or wherever. We deserve to be able to be ourselves and be respected. With scripture, prayer and support from my family, I am winning this battle and you can too.
Jakyia was referred to Writing for the Soul Workshop™ by her Pastor at New Life Ministries in Moro, Arkansas when she shared with him how bullying had affected her. In our current school system, almost 50% of all children like Jakyia have experienced at least one ACE or Adverse Childhood Experience. These traumas include things like bullying, so implementing a trauma-informed approach is imperative to change this cycle. Writing for the Soul Workshop™ is a national mentoring program that helps students like Jakyia recognize and address traumatic experiences using writing as a trauma informed approach.
During the workshop, students like Jakyia learn that they experience the same struggles as their peers participating in our program around the world. Like the lack of employment opportunities for instance. So when we told her that she could earn money promoting The Bully Diaries if she shared her story, Jakyia agreed.
When you purchase The Bully Diaries (includes Jakyia’s story) or The Bully Diaries Journal, Jakyia earns $3. This will help her with college while she shares her story in an effort to end bullying. During checkout, simply enter Coupon Code: supportjakyia to save $1 on your purchase. This code also allows us to track her sales so she gets paid.
The Bully Diaries by Writing for the Soul Workshop™
Chances are that you experienced bullying in your life. Whether your experience was as a victim, a bystander or the bully, if you search your memories, you will probably find instances when bullying was a part of your life. For many of us, these experiences have defined us and shaped us. Our experiences made us stronger, and helped us become who we are today.
When you are being bullied, it is hard to think about much more than getting through today. For others, there is no today. Their experience being bullied was too overwhelming, and drove them to a devastating and permanent solution to the temporary pain.
Through a community partnership with Stand for the Silent, Writing for the Soul Workshop collected stories, letters and poems from youth, teens and adults from around the world. These stories are pieces of lives impacted by bullying; written to show everyone affected by bullying that you are not alone, that you can survive the experience, that you are somebody. A portion of the proceeds from book sales goes to support Stand for the Silent.
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